lunedì, giugno 19, 2006

Today I am reborn

I will not learn, I will live

I will not suffer, I will appreciate

I will not beg, I will demand

I will not fail, and I will still love

Luckiest gal on earth

I should stick to this:

The fact that I haven't found what I think I want does not mean I don't have more than I ever wished for.

The fact that I think I am not loved enough may just be because I am too demanding and I want perfection when I actually know it can't possibly exist.

Could it be that I am just stalling and making excuses?

Could it be that I am turning into this crazed lunatic that self-inflicts unhappiness, to feel alive and perpetuate the cicle of neediness?

This is the time to wake up and smell the roses... I am the luckiest gal on earth. I've got luck on my side, friendship in my life, looks, brains, wits and guts. What else could a girl want?

The fact is not that I haven't found a men. It is even not that I have not found the right one. It is only that I have found many, one very right... Passed the right (not perfect to my standards) and insist on the wrongs (what could possibly be wrong with that?).

Stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid... This is punishable with life inprisonment...


(Not from the Dalai Lama, nor a Tantra to pass a round, but useful all the same).

  1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
  3. Follow the three Rs:
    Respect for self
    Respect for others and
    Responsibility for all your actions.
  4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
  5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
  6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
  7. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
  8. Spend some time alone every day.
  9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
  10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
  11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
  12. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
  13. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
  14. Be gentle with the earth.
  15. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
  16. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
  17. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
  18. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.


My destiny is itching...

And because it works slowly, my curiosity is killing me. I wish I could just look at the last page of this book.


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Denial is a psychological defense mechanism in which a person faced with a fact that is uncomfortable or painful to accept rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. The subject may deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether (simple denial), admit the fact but deny its seriousness (minimisation) or admit both the fact and seriousness but deny responsibility (transference). The concept of denial is particularly important to the study of addiction.
The theory of denial was first researched seriously by Anna Freud. She classified denial as a mechanism of the immature mind, because it conflicts with the ability to learn from and cope with reality. Where denial occurs in mature minds, it is most often associated with death and dying. More recent research has significantly expanded the scope and utility of the concept. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross used denial as the first of five stages in the psychology of a dying patient, and the idea has been extended to include the reactions of survivors to news of a death. Thus, when parents are informed of the death of a child, their first reaction is often of the form, "No! You must have the wrong house, you can't mean our child!"
Unlike some other defense mechanisms postulated by psychoanalytic theory (for instance, repression), the general existence of denial is fairly easy to verify, even for non-specialists. On the other hand, denial is one of the most controversial defense mechanisms, since it can be easily used to create unfalsifiable theories: anything the subject says or does that appears to disprove the interpreter's theory is explained, not as evidence that the interpreter's theory is wrong, but as the subject's being "in denial".
A commonly-cited example of spurious denial is the psychologist who insists, against all evidence, that his patient is homosexual: any attempt by the patient to disprove the theory (as by pointing out his strong desire for women) is evidence of denial and thus evidence of the underlying theory. This tension can become serious, especially in areas such as child abuse and recovered memory. Proponents often respond to allegations of false memory by asserting that the subjects are genuine victims who have reverted to denial. Critics reply (some seriously, some less so) that it is the proponents who are in denial about the tenuousness of their theories.
The concept of denial is important in twelve-step programs, where the abandonment or reversal of denial forms the basis of the first, fourth, fifth, eighth and tenth steps. The ability to deny or minimize is an essential part of what enables an addict to continue his or her behavior in the face of evidence that, to an outsider, appears overwhelming. This is cited as one of the reasons that compulsion is seldom effective in treating addiction — the habit of denial remains.
Understanding and avoiding denial is also important in the treatment of various diseases. The American Heart Association cites denial as a principal reason that treatment of a heart attack is delayed. Because the symptoms are so varied, and often have other potential explanations, the opportunity exists for the patient to deny the emergency, often with fatal consequences. It is common for patients to delay mammograms or other tests because of a fear of cancer, even though this is clearly maladaptive. It is the responsibility of the care team, and of the nursing staff in particular, to train at-risk patients to avoid such behavior.

Columbia Encyclopedia (2003).
"When your patient uses denial", Journal of Practical Nursing, 48, 10-14.

venerdì, giugno 16, 2006


Se to triste... to. Sou hoje muito mais triste, mas ainda muito cheia de esperança pelo amanhã... acredito profundamente que o amanhã será sempre melhor... só que, infelizmente é sempre amanhã.

E aí, não sei... será que não estou a viver o hoje à espera do amanhã?

Às vezes sobrevivo... Às vezes sobrevivo quando todos acham que vivo. Às vezes desespero... desespero em silêncio. Às vezes choro... E inundo só o cantinho dos olhos... mas ainda não é isto que quero. Só que ainda não decidi bem o que quero. Ou já desisti de procurar... ainda não percebi muito bem qual...

Mas incrivelmente sinto isto tudo com uma paz interior inigualável...

mercoledì, giugno 14, 2006

Human intelligence

Dolphins and Men

A friend just sent me this:

"It it an important and popular fact that things are not always what they seem. For instance, on the planet Earth, Man had always assumed that he was more intelligent than dolphins because he had achieved so much: the wheel, New York, wars, and so on. But conversely, the dolphins believed themselves to be more intelligent than Man for precisely the same reasons!"

(Douglas Adams, "So Long, and Thanks for All the Fish")

giovedì, giugno 08, 2006


Someone has been telling me:

'Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity. And I am not sure about the universe.'